My husband refuses to give me my stimulus check from his savings account. We filed taxes jointly, but Iâm not listed on the checking account. I have a checking account, and he has his own checking account. He says that I donât deserve it because I didnât earn it. What is my best course of action?
This issue is a lot bigger than your $ 1,200 stimulus check.
This is a textbook case of financial abuse. In fact, here is a direct quote from the Office on Womenâs Health at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services: âFinancial abuse happens when an abuser takes control of finances to prevent the other person from leaving and to maintain power in a relationship. An abuser may take control of all the money, withhold it, and conceal financial information from the victim.â You are inside of it, so you not be able to see it for what it is.
He has no legal right to keep your money. The economic impact payment is technically an advance payment of a tax credit on your 2020 return. The IRS is using 2019 tax returns to gauge peopleâs incomes; 2018 tax returns are used as a Plan B. I donât see any compassion, trust or respect in his actions â just some of the hallmarks of a loving relationship. Financial abuse is a form of domestic violence. Not all scars are visible, many are psychological and have the same insidious effect: to control and subdue another person.
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If you filed jointly, you share the money. âEven if your husband earns more money, there is a tax benefit of claiming two deductions â one for each spouse â on the returns,â says David Waltzer, a New York-based lawyer. âSo, without you, there would certainly be less of a tax credit. Also, if there were a tax liability â money owed to the IRS â you would be on the hook. So it is outrageous that a spouse would share liability for tax debt, but not share in the tax credit.
âIt might be valuable to look at equitable distribution principles that apply to divorced couples,â Waltzer said. âThe premise is that if one spouse earns more, the other spouse is entitled to some of the value from those earnings. Why? Because it is presumed that the lower-earning spouse is contributing in other ways, maybe with household management, laundry, food, shopping etc.. That contribution (sweat equity) supports and frees the earning spouse to make the money.â
Not only do these principles apply to your stimulus check, but Waltzer says there is even a stronger case for the equal division of stimulus checks. âThey are supposed to be $ 1,200 per person, for example. So if a $ 2,400 check arrives into one spouseâs account, $ 1,200 of that belongs to the other spouse. Lastly, even if none of the above convinces your husband, tell him to be a mensch and not a grinch and to stop giving you a hard time â just out of sheer decency and love.â
Thatâs the legal opinion on your case, with some free relationship advice thrown in for good measure. You are in a difficult position during this lockdown. You could call your husbandâs bank, but if the account is in his name, it will be difficult â if not near impossible â to persuade a bank to transfer that money to your account. The Internal Revenue Service is sending out millions of stimulus payments to people, so Iâd be very surprised if they were able to send another one to you separately.
Your best course of action for now: Keep notes of all of these events with dates, and other details, and use them to motivate yourself to take action when the economy starts up again. You can also use this time to consult a family attorney in your area to explore your options. Are you happy in your marriage? Is your husbandâs refusal to give you your stimulus check some kind of aberration? You are the best one to answer that.
If not, you not only have a right to that $ 1,200 stimulus payment, you also have a right to be happy. But only you can make that happen.
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