As COVID-19 relief bill talks continue, some Americans are turning to the proverbial Bank of Mom and Dad to address cash flow problems â but donât think theyâre happy about it.
71% of people who borrowed money from a loved one this year said they felt guilty about asking, according to a LendingTree survey. Thatâs up from the 65% of survey participants last year who admitted feeling guilty about their money request.
âNo one likes to admit theyâre struggling,â Matt Schulz, LendingTree chief credit analyst, said on the topic of guilt and money. âSometimes you just have to swallow some pride, though, and do whatâs best for you, especially in crazy economic times like these.â
Borrowers may also feel guilty about asking for a financial hand from people who are themselves facing tough straits, just not currently as tough as what the borrower is experiencing.
The survey released earlier this month shows how emotionally loaded the request for money can be: 31% said theyâd rather take on debt than turn to family and friends, while 27% said theyâd make that request before going into the red (41% said it would depend on the circumstances.)
Informal lending is hard to measure precisely overall, but in the latest LendingTree survey at least, 35% said they have borrowed from family and friends in the past year (with about half of those loan requests going to parents). Of the borrowers, the most-cited reason (22%) for the money was covering monthly housing costs, a reminder of the pandemicâs economic toll.
41% of the survey participants said theyâve extended loans â usually with no interest â to family and friends. The sum averaged $ 1,497 and almost two-thirds (62%) say theyâve already been paid back. Nearly half (46%) of the survey participants said the coronavirus pandemic has made them more inclined to help out friends and family financially.
LendingTree started with a 2,075-person sample size and then drilled into the responses of the 719 people who borrowed money and the 859 people who lent money.
On the one hand, asking family and friends for cash can help borrowers sidestep some issues, like the prospect of repaying interest on top of principal, or going through a bankâs formal lending application.
But it can dredge up a whole other array of relationship issues when friends and family might feel awkwardly put on the spot with the ask, or start wondering when theyâll get their money back.
Another problem can arise when one person is overly optimistic about repayment timetables and another person is pessimistic about how long It will take, Mariel Beasley, a co-founder of Duke Universityâs Common Cents Lab, a financial-behavior research lab, previously told MarketWatch.
If people are going to go down this road with family and friends, Beasley said itâs crucial that both sides plan ahead before the transaction. That includes hashing out questions like how to communicate about repayment or what to do if unexpected income decreases crimp the borrowerâs ability to repay.
Others say money deals with family and friends are never worth the risk to the relationship, but If you do loan money and never see a repayment, just let it go.